I am sad to pass along the news that my Dad, Martin, died this morning in the early hours of the day.

We found out just over a month ago that melanoma, which he had some years ago had returned and was spreading.  He has seizures on his birthday, July 24th, caused by tumours on the brain and at that point we found out how aggressive the cancer was.

We had NO idea however, that the decline would be so rapid, and he’d pass in less than a month.

He died with peace, no pain, complete dignity and we couldn’t have asked for better care in the last two weeks in the hospice.

I will touch base again in a couple of days, and thank you so much for all the support and love you’ve shown my family during this difficult time.

R.I.P Dad.  Life as we know it will never be the same without you.  I am proud to be your daughter!!

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Just checking in to give you an update.   Really, there is no update, we spend a big part of our days at hospice with my Dad, who drifts in and out of reality, but is comfortable and isn’t in pain.

We feel so grateful and fortunate that he is getting such compassionate, dignified and nurturing care in this last chapter of his life.  The people who work in the hospice really are angels on earth.  It is a place of great sadness, but it is also amazingly positive and safe.  I couldn’t wish for a better place for my Dad to be right now…but I can’t lie, it is an emotional time for us all.

I’m also very lucky to have vacation days that can be used to stay in Victoria and support my mom as well.  Summer 2014 won’t go down in the books as a great one, but one of growth, and gratitude.

After our visit this afternoon, I really needed to go for a walk, have some “Roz time” and just clear my head.  I drove to a beach not far away, and walked along the water.  It was JUST what the doctor ordered.  Here are a few shots from my walk.

These are my feet in my mom’s shoes (I forgot to pack my walking shoes)….

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I saw no salmon….

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But I did see heron.  LOTS of heron.

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I LOVE this!  I found this painted rock and little “hello” by a tree.  It made me happy. I wish the mystery artist could only know how much the little gesture meant to me and how wonderful it was to stumble upon it today.

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Other walkers and some scenery….

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“Silhouette Leaf Art”….

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“constructed before the tide came in, rock art”

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Nature’s “art” in the form of a seashell….

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…that acted as a prop for a deceased crab photo shoot…..

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…they were EVERYWHERE!  Birds will have a good dinner tonight….

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And finally, I made a new friend.  I’m missing Neva (and Dennis too, but that goes without saying), so any pet to play with is welcome right now.  (I actually monopolized one of the little therapy dogs who are brought to the hospice for a while too.  He was soooo cute, and was pretty happy to just sit and snuggle with me for a while.  I know the dogs are there for patients, but I think families and staff love them too)

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Hope all of you are doing well.  I am missing normal blogging (and normal life) but know I am exactly where I should be right now, and sooner rather than later this month long roller coaster will stop….and we will be able to begin our process of healing and moving forward.

Much love and thanks for ongoing support and check ins!  They mean more to me than you’ll ever know.  HUG!!!!

I’m back at my parent’s place in Victoria.  We’re still going day to day.

I learned something very important.  When one is visiting someone in a hospice, the words “try these amazing plums, they’re to die for” probably isn’t the most well thought out sentence in the world.  However….  (I stand by my thoughts that some humour is important, even when there is darkness around!)

Here are just a few pictures from the last couple of days….

This is my dismal tomato crop on our deck. LOL!  It is one tomato and is about the size of a walnut (for the record, it is not a cherry tomato variety).  My beans, radishes and lettuce were stellar….my beets and carrots are as pathetic as this tomato.  All noted for next year’s gardening.  Salsa anyone?  I’ll go to the grocery store….

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I took this picture from the bus I took from Vancouver to the ferry.  AWWW!!!!

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…last night’s sunset from the ferry.

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This is my parent’s next door neighbor’s cat Amelie.  She was watching a fly and was disinterested in my camera.  Cute!

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I took a little walk around the neighborhood after dinner tonight.  This deer was having HIS dinner…

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…I thought this spider had pretty colours….

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…and one of the neighbors have HUGE grape vines that are bearing a ton of fruit, and are hanging over the fence.

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That’s it for today.  I’ll check in when I can.  Thanks  again for the ongoing support, love and prayers that are being sent our way.  My mom and I continue to appreciate and feel them all.  (and I’m pretty sure my Dad feels the love too!)

Have a great weekend!!!

It POURED with rain yesterday, and rain means snails come out of hiding and climb on my hand.

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I love snails, so that made me happy.

I’m back to Victoria to be with my parents tonight, so will check in from the Island over the weekend.

I’m missing regular blogging, but just doing what I have to do right now.  I’m also missing catching up on my favorite blogs, but please know I’m thinking of my blog friends often.

Have a wonderful weekend everyone!  Catch up again soon!

Hi everyone!

Just spinning by with a quick hello.  I’m back home in Vancouver for 3 days, then will be back to Victoria for a few more days to help out my Mom.   Life for my family is chugging along day to day.

Not significant update on my Dad.  He is getting excellent care, and is comfortable, which really is all we can ask for at the moment.

It was a beautiful night last night, so I took a few photos on the ferry ride back…..

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..real live jellyfish in the wild….

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…and last night’s super moon.

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Speaking of the full moon, the falling/strangely placed feathers that seem to follow me when the full moon hits were back in full force yesterday and today. (I have witnesses….and don’t think I’m crazy.  Well….)  I pick them all up, and have a “bouquet of feathers” here at home, and another one on my desk at work….I have NO idea what to do with them.

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I’m a little smitten with the owl feather (I googled it to identify the bird it came from), that was in front of me on a path yesterday.  It really is beautiful.

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I was back at work today (I’m taking vacation days to be with my family, and have to save them a little…) and at lunchtime, I walked down to our little community garden plot and gave it some much needed tending and harvesting.   Here is my garlic harvest.

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I also walked by a dog with amazing eyes….

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…beautiful sunflowers…..

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And seagulls who had a lot to say….

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Finally, just because you haven’t seen her for a while, here is Neva giving me her best “oh, were you gone???” look.  NEVA!!!

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I am exhausted, so will be hitting publish and getting to bed.  Will check in again in a couple of days.    Again, I can’t thank those of you who have commented and emailed support and love enough!  I have absolutely felt your support, and continue to do so as we move through this difficult time.

Have a wonderful week everyone!!!

Sending love and a big nose poke to all my blog friends and family!!!!

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Wasn’t I in the right place at the right time to get this shot today??  Love the little nose nuzzle that these two gave each other.  AWW!!!

I’ll touch base again in a couple of days!  (I’m missing regular posts, and regular life….but am where I need to be for a few more days).

How are all of you doing??  Happy Friday to all of you!!!!

Warning, this post may make some of you “ewwwww”!   You’ve been warned! ;)

Again, I can’t thank all of you enough for the words and notes of support over the last week.    Also the good wishes, thoughts, prayers and energy are felt, and appreciated!  I send a giant hug to you all!!!!!

I just want to publish a quick post to stay in touch, send another heartfelt thanks, and share a few things from my last couple of days.

Not real news on my Dad, we continue to be “day to day” and are committed to making every day and every visit with him positive.

I can say though, I have never heard/had more discussions of bowel movements of  not only people I love, but also complete strangers than I have in the last couple of days.  Such is the life when time is spent in a hospital.  I guess.

Speaking of bowel movements (hey, why not???)  I had a first today.  (hmmm…upon proofing before publish, maybe that last sentence contained a poor choice of words.  HA) I was watering flowers in my parent’s back yard today.  I had bare feet.  I did a little mis-step, and landed flatly and firmly in the biggest, most disgusting pile of raccoon “doo” that you could ever see.  Seriously, my parent’s back yard must be the public communal toilet for every raccoon in a 10 km radius.  Here is one of the offenders I’m sure….

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…they are cute as can be, but Mr. Raccoon….MAYBE cut back on berry and cherry consumption!  Or at least bury it!  Gross!! (good thing I had a hose in my hand)

Speaking of garden creatures, here are two of my Dad’s FAVORITE (not!) animals…..cute deer.  They wander through the neighborhood snacking on plants and trees and basically decimate some gardens.  Hey, at least they don’t leave giant mounds of poop for me to step in.  As a result, I prefer deer over raccoons today.

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That kinda leads into the next exciting topic….PLUMS from a road side stand.  These are the BEST plums ever.  We’ll leave it at that….

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I also picked some blackberries this afternoon.  Gotta love wild berry bushes just full and there for the taking.

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And finally, I found this poor fella on the sidewalk.  He/she WAS HUGE!!!!  (and deceased, so cooperated for the photo on my hand)  I have never held a bug this big, and have no idea what it is.

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I’ll be googling a little to see.  (sorry if you are grossed out…I love insects and think they are fascinating.  I wonder why I majored in urban studies in university.  In hindsight, and as time passes, I care less and less about urban infrastructure and more and more about nature and the environment.  Oh well, can’t change the past)

That is my quick update from the field!  Hope all of you are having a good week.  I’ll post again in a couple of days.  In the meantime, stay in touch!!!!  (thank you imagesbuddy.com via google images)

 

…despite hiding in a carry on bag, you can’t come to Victoria with me.  Not this time….

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Hope all of you have a lovely weekend!  I’ll be in touch over the next couple of days!!!  (and am soooo behind in my blog reading.  I’ll try to catch up soon!)

 

BIG thanks to my friend Laura, who sent me this today….

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Life as I know it has changed forever, and is still very much in limbo, but my humour, and my amazing friends will ALWAYS be in tact!!!!

…and I hate it when I walk funny!

Sending love to all!

HUGE and HEARTFELT THANK YOU to all!!!

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Over the last few days, the comments, emails, texts and warmth have meant more to my family and I than you could ever know!!!!!

No real update on my Dad, things are all “a day at a time”.  This is all very surreal.

I am back in Vancouver for a few days, and will head back again on the weekend (or before if I’m needed of course).  I would love to share photos of my days, but truth be told, there are none.  I haven’t picked up my camera since Thursday.  I don’t want to over analyze that, taking photos and finding beauty every day will soon become priority again I’m sure.  However, I do wonder if, even subconsiously, I don’t want to document this time in my life.  Dunno…

I will provide more updates and check in soon.  Again, I can’t thank you all enough for all the love, wishes, prayers and vibes that have been coming our way!  I am truly blessed!

xoxo

 

 

 

 

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